There Is A Solution

An article about sobriety and freedom from addiction. Ironically by staying out of self and trying to improve yourself and be a better person, sobriety can be far more pleasant than thought.

Alcoholics are selfish types. Full of pride, ego and an overblown sense of self worth, we view our place in the universe as something that we certainly do not deserve. This in turn leads to fear, anger and resentment; we are like 2 year olds that, having been given the ice cream that we thew a tantrum about demand a different flavoured one instead.

Selfishness and self centerdness; that egotistical, base lower self that bloats us with negativity is a slow but sure acting mental poison that infects out thinking and makes us more self seeking and far too irritable for our own displeasure. There is a way out though.

Freedom from that bondage of 'self' an appreciation and zest for life is a healthy ideal. We need to be free from our own resentment, anger, fear and frustration at the world too. Sure people, places and things may have wronged us; have we not been wrong ourselves too? If we can be honest with ourselves and be ready to forgive those who have harmed us, whether for real or imagined, will place us out of self and to a place where we can be better people.

Mindfulness is another good path to consider. We should be forever mindful of others, as well as situations that may be out of our control. We are not perfect after all and to remember that we need to to the best we can, leaving the rest up to fate. Remember thought that in our newly sober lives all the trust we have lost over the weeks, months and years due to our addictions will take time to be earned back. Our motives may be questioned at first but we can do better by our actions. Of course there will be amends to make to others that we have harmed, financially, emotionally and physically. That can be quite daunting and although we should be genuine about our part and sincere in our desire to put right our wrongs, for some the wounds may be deep and take time to heal. That is OK though as long as we are willing to straighten out our past.

In our daily lives as ex addicts we should also be grateful for our new found freedom and aware that we can do the best we can today. Yesterday is the past. Tomorrow has yet to happen. Today is a gift. That is why they call it the present.